We all have been talking about change lately and I know firsthand the involved hurdles and terror.   Selling a house you loved and a business that was like your kid – and then moving across country, is some pretty heavy stuff (just look at my hair loss and breakouts if you need proof).   BUT …. Now that I can look back on it with a teeny bit of perspective, it was all worth it.     I now get to spend time with my husband and my real baby (a big fat hairy 100 lb Chocolate Lab named Angus – see picture) and we have a pretty great new house … WITH A POOL!!!    And the weather sure doesn’t suck!!

But did I think this was going to be the case in late November/December …  heck no … most of the time I couldn’t see the forest for the trees.       This can pertain to anything in your life even if the change is smaller or bigger than mine   — Job change, friendship changes, and love life changes — usually if something in your life is forcing there to be some change or suggesting there be change, it’s for a reason.   Sometimes it’s something good that is suggesting or forcing the change and even though you know it’s positive … it doesn’t make the process any easier, it just might make the decision less painful.    Then there is the flipside, and if the change is being forced by something negative … you would think that most of us would want to extricate ourselves from anything negative and that the change would be WELCOME but sometimes these are the hardest decisions to make because you are scared.       In a bad job or relationship – deciding to move on even when you are unhappy – is beyond excruciating, but very rarely do you hear someone wishing they hadn’t made the change to a better situation.

In business, when things aren’t working or you are having challenges – change is the scariest option on the planet because of the unknown variables – but you can never make positive changes in a challenging situation by doing the same things over and over that got you in the situation in the first place.     What is that definition of insanity that everyone uses – doing the same things over and over and expecting different results???

Don’t look for excuses or pass blame to others in order to try and get out of the inevitable, just hold your breath and jump right in … trust me (and Angus) … the water is really nice.